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The Emotional Toll of Completing a Five-Year Clinical Trial
When you live inside a clinical trial for years, it becomes more than just a medical study. It becomes part of your life story. Five years is a long time. It is filled with appointments, travel, tests, forms, and scans. It means having people checking on you constantly and knowing you are part of something much bigger than yourself. When it ended, I felt like a major chapter of my life was closing. A few things were happening at the same time: I was a patient, but I was also
2 days ago2 min read


What Happens After the Miracle? Life After Torrential Tricuspid Regurgitation
Everyone loves the miracle story. Hospice. No options left. Then a clinical trial. Then a second chance. For me, that second chance came through the early feasibility study of the EVOQUE transcatheter tricuspid valve replacement. I later continued follow-up as part of the TRISCEND II research studying this therapy for people living with severe tricuspid regurgitation, But what people don’t talk about very often is what happens after the miracle. When the swelling finally s
4 days ago3 min read


Living Inside the Gap: What Clinical Trials Don’t Always Show
When people talk about clinical trials, they often talk about outcomes, data, and approvals. But what mattered most in my journey wasn’t just that a trial existed. It was how supported or unsupported I felt while living inside it. Behind every study are real people trying to survive long enough to reach the next option. And sometimes the hardest part isn’t the science. It’s the space in between. Here are some of the realities I lived through that rarely show up in trial repor
Mar 125 min read


The Heart’s Paper Trail: When Your Medical Record Finally Catches Up to Your Body
They say a picture is worth a thousand words. But when you live with heart valve disease, one medical note can explain years of symptoms. For a long time, I felt my body changing. I was tired all the time. My chest felt heavy. The swelling kept getting worse. But the focus stayed on my past surgeries and my pulmonary arteries. Meanwhile, something else was quietly progressing, severe tricuspid regurgitation. My echocardiograms showed moderate leakage in 2005. By 2014, it was
Feb 262 min read


Heart Month Through a Patient and Caregiver Lens
February is Heart Month — and it holds more than one truth. Heart Month does important work. It raises awareness. It saves lives. It gets people talking. And there’s still a part of the conversation we don’t always make enough space for. Heart disease isn’t only about numbers, charts, or wearing red. It’s about real people living inside the system. ❤️🩹 It’s the woman whose symptoms were brushed off as stress or anxiety. ❤️🩹 The caregiver quietly holding everything togethe
Feb 102 min read


My Why Is the Gap — And Why Bridging It Matters in Healthcare
This perspective didn’t come overnight. It grew out of almost four decades of living as a patient inside the healthcare system. Because Numbers Don’t Tell the Whole Recovery Story The gap between what medicine measures and what patients actually live with. The gap between a “successful outcome” and what real recovery feels like. The gap between innovation moving fast and patients being left behind. I learned about this gap by living inside it. I was the patient who looked “fi
Feb 52 min read


🫀Taken Off Diuretics at 69: Why the News Felt So Big
Why good medical news can still feel scary when you’ve lived through heart failure Friday, I walked into my cardiology follow-up feeling pretty confident. I’ve been feeling really good. Like… good-good. More energy. More good days than hard ones. That stretch where you finally start to exhale and think, “Okay… maybe we’re steady.” So I expected a normal appointment. Maybe a “keep doing what you’re doing.” Maybe a small adjustment. But what I heard instead? I was not ready for
Jan 273 min read


Brain Fog After a Heart Event: The Part Nobody Warned Me About
There’s a part of the recovery manual that’s missing. Hell, there is no recovery manual. After my heart event, my brain changed . And I’m not talking about ‘oops, I forgot where I put my keys.’ I’m talking about a system failure . I’m talking about the lights being on, but the wires being frayed. I’ll be in the middle of writing a blog… or sharing my lived experience… something I know in my bones… and then my mind goes blank. 📖 The word disappears. 📖 The thought disappears.
Jan 223 min read


Why “Mild” Heart Valve Leaks Matter: A Guide for Patients
Tricuspid Valve Regurgitation, Explained in Plain Language I’m listening to a non-invasive cardiologist explain tricuspid valve regurgitation (TR) grades, and I hear this a lot: “Mild” and “trace” are clinically irrelevant.They don’t matter. I understand what that means medically .But here’s the truth — it still matters to patients. Let me explain why 👇 🩺 What Doctors Are Taught In medical training and guidelines: Trace or mild TR is very common Many healthy people have i
Jan 133 min read


Heading Into the New Year: What This Year Taught Me About Advocacy, Care, and Speaking 💭
As this year comes to a close, I’ve been reflecting on the last 12 months of my personal life. A lot of it was heavy. A lot of it required honesty — even when I didn’t feel ready for it. If I’ve learned anything this year, it’s this: life doesn’t wait for us to feel ready. A Year That Didn’t Pause ⏳ This year, my husband Louis faced a cancer recurrence while I was dealing with my own cancer scare. There was no pause button.No moment where life slowed down so we could catch o
Dec 31, 20253 min read


CLL Update: Why Louis and His Doctor Chose Watchful Waiting After His Latest Biopsy
Some seasons in caregiving feel like you’re holding your breath… and then finally letting out a slow exhale when you hear, “He’s doing okay.” That’s where we are right now. Louis had another round of scans this fall. The good news? Most of the swollen lymph nodes in his body have stayed the same or gotten smaller. The only change was under his left arm, where the nodes got bigger — so his doctor did a biopsy to check everything. The biopsy confirmed his CLL is still present,
Dec 30, 20252 min read


When Rare Cancers Damage the Heart Valves (Carcinoid Heart Disease) and Why This Feels Personal ❤️🩹🥑
Why awareness, earlier answers, and patient voices matter in carcinoid heart disease and valve care ✨ What I Learned Today I love sharing the things I learn along the way, especially when it’s something I wish patients were told sooner. Today’s lesson? How some rare cancers can damage the heart long before anyone realizes what’s happening and why this matters more than people think! Some rare cancers, like carcinoid tumors, can release too much serotonin into the bloodstream.
Dec 18, 20254 min read


The Hard Questions We Don’t Talk About Enough 💬
❤️🩹 A patient’s perspective from someone who lived early feasibility When you’re one of the first people to receive a new heart valve, you learn pretty quickly that innovation is both a miracle and an evolving standard of care. I was an early feasibility EVOQUE patient — part of the group whose outcomes helped shape future FDA approval. The valve saved my life. But being in that first wave also meant stepping into a space where long-term answers were still being written. Th
Dec 16, 20253 min read


The Simple Tool Every Woman Should Use to Check Her Heart Health
Get a free personalized guide you can take straight to your doctor. Knowledge can be life-saving.And when it comes to heart valve disease, sometimes the only difference between catching it early or ending up in a crisis … is knowing what to ask. I found a tool I really wish more people knew about — especially women. We get brushed off way too often as “tired,” “stressed,” or “just busy.”Meanwhile, our hearts might be working twice as hard just to keep up. This quick assessme
Dec 11, 20251 min read


📝 Show-and-Tell: What Patients Really Need to See Before Saying 'Yes' to a Clinical Trial
Some days, clinical trials remind me of show-and-tell back in kindergarten. Remember that? You didn’t just talk about your awesome toy — you brought it in! You showed it. You let people hold it, look at it, and ask questions to really understand what made it special. Honestly… I wish clinical trials were more like that. Before anyone tries to “explain the benefits” or hands me a huge stack of papers with words I can barely pronounce, I want to see — really see — what this t
Dec 9, 20253 min read


No Two Humans Are Alike — So Why Do We Treat Medicine Like They Are?
Your story, your chemistry, your care — no one else’s body works like yours. Have you ever stopped and thought about how no two people are exactly the same?Not even identical twins. We might share the same diagnosis or take the same pill, but inside, our bodies work in their own way.Our genes, hormones, gut bacteria, past illnesses, and even how we handle stress make us unique.That’s what makes life interesting and what also makes medicine complicated. 🧬 Medicine Talks in Av
Dec 4, 20252 min read


Why Healthcare Feels So Cold — A Patient’s Perspective
How a Century-Old Mindset Still Shapes the Way Patients Are Seen and Heard I’ve been thinking a lot about why the doctor–patient relationship can feel so distant.And when you peel back the layers, it goes way back — more than a hundred years. Where This All Started Around 1910, the Flexner Report reshaped medical training across the U.S.It pushed a strict “science first, emotions last” model. By the 1920s–1950s, that mindset had become the blueprint. Doctors were taught to:
Nov 27, 20252 min read


What Clinical Trial Data Can’t Show — But Patients Can
Because lived experience explains the “why” behind every statistic. ❤️🩹 I can’t shake this one line that keeps echoing in my head: “Data comes alive through a real human story.” ✨ It sounds like something you’d jot down during a meeting about “impact,” right?But honestly… that line sums up my whole life.A little humbling. A little exhausting. And every bit is true. The Two Worlds We All Move Through 🌍 Most of us bounce between two very different worlds. 1. The World of
Nov 25, 20253 min read


💥 If IRBs Want to Protect Us, They Need to Hear Us — All of Us
I’ve been thinking about something we don’t talk about enough in the research world: Sometimes the very systems meant to protect us end up silencing us . We see it with pregnant women being excluded from studies. But let’s be honest — it doesn’t stop there. 🚫 Safety Shouldn’t Mean Exclusion IRBs (Institutional Review Boards) exist to keep people safe. I respect that. Their mission is critical. But safety shouldn’t mean exclusion. And protection shouldn’t mean making decisi
Nov 20, 20253 min read


🚨When the System Makes You Wait for Hope: Surviving the Valley of Death
When I first started speaking up about my story, I had no idea how much it would teach me.I never imagined my journey could be used to highlight gaps in our healthcare system—or to help push for solutions that give patients real hope. 🫸 The Waiting Game The truth is, even after the FDA approves a breakthrough treatment , patients often still have to wait years for Medicare to decide if it will be covered. That waiting period is sometimes called the “valley of death.” I know
Nov 18, 20253 min read
"If no one else was telling their story, then maybe I needed to tell mine. And maybe, just maybe, that would give others permission to share theirs too."
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